. American etiquette and rules of politeness. (340) CHAPTER XVI. ETIQUETTE OF VISITING. 1 HE subject treated in this chap-ter is, visits of several days, orf\A more, away from ones placeof residence. What is said ap-plies to ladies and gentlemenalike, though the masculine pro-noun is generally used. Visitingmay be a source of great pleasure toboth guest and host; but it is a privi-lege that is also often abused. To makeanother person the servant of your gratifi-cation for days, and, perhaps, weeks, is no little visiting can only exist where there is somefirm friendship, such as
. American etiquette and rules of politeness. (340) CHAPTER XVI. ETIQUETTE OF VISITING. 1 HE subject treated in this chap-ter is, visits of several days, orf\A more, away from ones placeof residence. What is said ap-plies to ladies and gentlemenalike, though the masculine pro-noun is generally used. Visitingmay be a source of great pleasure toboth guest and host; but it is a privi-lege that is also often abused. To makeanother person the servant of your gratifi-cation for days, and, perhaps, weeks, is no little visiting can only exist where there is somefirm friendship, such as shall make your entertainmenta pleasure rather than a ACCEPTING INVITATIONS TO VISIT. General invitations to visit are often thrown outcarelessly by people who wish to appear it is always an error, if not a sin, to say whatyou do not mean, it is a still worse blunder to takesuch people at their word. Never accept a general Come and see us sometime, unless your relationsto the party inviting you are such that you could have (141) 142 AMERICAN ETIQUETTE. no room for doubting the propriety of the visit. Togive an invitation real meaning, the date and lengthof the visit should be mentioned. But in many casesit would be a favor to let visitors select their owntime. UNEXPECTED VISITS. Where a visitor has been granted the courtesy ofchoosing his own time, he ought certainly to let hisfriend know beforehand of his coming. Some peoplehave a fancy for surprising their friends with unex-pected visits. The unlooked-for return of a widowslong-lost son may be to her the more intensely joyousbecause unexpected ; but the ordinary surprise
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